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Monday, 01 June 2009

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There is a lot of information about how to date Asian women and their culture. But all this isn’t quite comprehensive because certain groups are somehow forgotten in this category. One of the groups left out is that of Indian women. We kind of take Asian to mean oriental. But according to the United States definition of Asian, the group also includes people from Southeast Asia and Indian subcontinent.
When we talk about Asian women dating and we generalize based on Chinese or Korean women, are we doing justice to Indian women? They say Asian women mostly date white men. In fact most “Asian women” I know are married to white men. But when coming to such conclusions, do we think of Indian women?

I decided to go onto interracial dating websites to look at the categories that are there. Most have a different category for Asian women and a different one for Indian women. Indians now have their own online dating sites for those interested in having relationships with them. And since most Indian women usually wait for someone to arrange their marriages, the internet through dating sites have become tools for empowering them to make their own choices about dating and marriage. They can now make acquaintances with members of the opposite sex without fear of social rebuttal.

But much as interracial dating within the American-Indian community is rising and more Indians are marrying outside their race, most Indian women in America still complain that they often find themselves caught between two worlds – A non-Indian man may not understand and fit into a traditional Indian family and also Indian men are hard to come by in the U.S. coz they avoid the Americanized Indian women.
I don’t know why we Americans don’t consider Indian women in the category of Asian women. However, I think it will be nice if we try and write more about their attitude to dating and online relationships, and how - even with their stringent cultures – they take online dating into the real world. How does interracial dating online affect their cultural and intercommunication practices and how does online dating bring social change for Indian women?

Tuesday, 14 October 2008

Black women White men dating

Until recently, the phrase “interracial couple” typically meant one thing: Black man and White woman. Not anymore. Well clearly, there is a brand-new wave sweeping over our traditional notions of interracial dating as supported by the recent real-life personal ads.

Whoopi Goldberg and Eddie Gold, Halle Berry and Gabriel Aubrey, model Iman and David Bowie, Marie Johnson and Marty Grey. These are members of the Hollywood glitterati … the new wave celebrity trend … Black women’s lives being touched by interracial dating and marriage.

According to the U.S. Bureau of Census, in 1987 there were 56,000 Black women married to White me which is 11,000 more than in1980. These figures confirm that the number of Black women marrying White men is both extensive and growing. It also shows that the White men dating interracially are defining their own standard of beauty … beautiful Black women who don't look like Marilyn Monroe and Brooke Shields.

Here is an example: the first time Shadoe Stevens, (star of Hollywood Squares and host of American Top 40, the most-listened-to pop-music radio show in the world) saw his wife, Beverly, a former international model, the fireworks, he says, were explosive and instant. "The first time I saw her," says Shadoe, "I couldn't move. She was so beautiful and I don't mean just physically. She had this incredible aura about her, it was in her eyes. When I looked at her there was this great blinding flash in the universe. I kept staring at her and thinking, I've got to get to know her. I never thought about color and had no feeling about it one way or the other. I guess the feeling was mutual. Beverly later told me she had to get out of there because she felt like she was 14 all over again. It was quite overwhelming." And after meeting her officially, they have never been apart since then.

Forget Hollywood glamour romance in this unique story. It seems that with Black women, something has so drastically shifted traditional attitudes on love and marriage to black dating sites and marriage. So what’s the deally yo? Well according to experts the basis are as personal and diverse as the interracial couples themselves. For some Black women, its the lack of availability of "marriageable" Black men as they put it. But many of the Black Women and White men alike have uniquely personal reasons for their decision. However, opportunity certainly seems to be a major factor. And we can’t deny the fact that today’s professional Black woman is constantly interacting with White men on a whole new level - as peers, as equals.

With such interaction, why wouldn’t there be chemistry that just doesn't respect racial barriers?
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